Light at the end of the Tunnel

It is very tough to get out of a mental state where you blame yourself for everything and quite frankly the stress and the continuous barrage of thoughts just eats up your happiness and transforms you into someone you don’t even recognise anymore. The deep dark hole only gets deeper when you start pushing people away even when they reach out to you( You know who you are).

The mind just needs a gateway and pretty soon you’ll go from ‘He didn’t wave because I didn’t reply to his text’ to ‘Nobody wants me here, I am such a bad friend.’ Whatever happened , whosever fault it was , what is the best possible thing you can accomplish by thinking about it?. Prove that you are not at fault? And where will that get you?. Just let it go . If it is meant to happen , it will. Even if you do voice out your perfectly logical explanation, you are just proving that you are a better friend which will eventually cause an imbalance that could ruin a relationship. Friendship is all about accepting the other’s mistakes , their eccentricities and love them regardless.(Oh! The irony! :D)

After reading an article on Eckhart Tolle , the approach I’ve decided to take is not one of pondering on the paths that your alternative decisions could have resulted in or of getting anxious about the ” fall short ” situations in the future but of just being aware and IN THE MOMENT . Like, where is your mind now? Are you aware of the chair you are sitting on or the room you are in? Do you notice the rise and fall of your breath? .

One other thing that helps in this process towards loving yourself is appreciating what you have . Being thankful for a home, loved ones, the opportunity to study , delicious food and a million other things. This approach will not only save a lot of your mental energy but will make you more HAPPIER. After all, isn’t that what life is all about?

What do you think? Any input is appreciated.

Disclaimer : Any relation found to real people is purely coincidental. (:P)